When I decided to ask friends and acquaintances about death, dying, it's effects on them, their memories and perceptions, I truly did not grasp the scope of my project! The response, outstanding for the most part, the memories, so forthright, honest and amazingly poignant.
Over the course of time, this project will reveal, stories, memories, the grieving process, coping and understanding the meaning of these feelings locked within. For some, it is an emotional roller coaster. Many cope, while others have locked their secrets and loneliness within their hearts. Perhaps understanding each or all of these feelings, whether good, bad, indifferent or overwhelming, allowing them to surface, may for some, be a re-birth into life. Not meant to be a cure, but a means by which we realize, some of what we perceive to be abnormal or dark inner feelings, may quite possibly be normal. By chance this is not the case, releasing and sharing what consumes your thoughts or breaks your heart, how you perceived certain events , in this case dying, may just surprise you.
Over the course of time, this project will reveal, stories, memories, the grieving process, coping and understanding the meaning of these feelings locked within. For some, it is an emotional roller coaster. Many cope, while others have locked their secrets and loneliness within their hearts. Perhaps understanding each or all of these feelings, whether good, bad, indifferent or overwhelming, allowing them to surface, may for some, be a re-birth into life. Not meant to be a cure, but a means by which we realize, some of what we perceive to be abnormal or dark inner feelings, may quite possibly be normal. By chance this is not the case, releasing and sharing what consumes your thoughts or breaks your heart, how you perceived certain events , in this case dying, may just surprise you.
In all it's morbidity, death and let us not forget, taxes are inevitable. If we look at the multitude of processes that seem to be part of our lives, many things are inevitable or as I prefer to call it, uncontrollable.
For argument purposes only, we can, to a certain extent, prolong dying. As we know it, this event is inevitable but perhaps a bit controllable. Taxes on the other hand can be controlled, are inevitable and even after death, they loom!
A very poignant thought comes from a wonderful, smart and beautiful young woman, Jessie, affectionately known as Boo, who at times, has a wisdom beyond her young years. "Attending the funeral of my best friend's father, I saw people weeping and sobbing, with horrible painful expressions. At that moment in time, something, as if a revelation appeared in my mind, flooding me with optimism and hope. I suddenly saw death as a good thing , the human body as a portal, carrying our soul, death occurring, when the body was no longer needed. Leaving it behind, we continue our journey. I saw myself as a light, an energy that never dies. It is at that precise moment, I realized, if something is inevitable, then it must be a good thing. In the beginning it may be misconstrued as we are unaware of the ultimate reason, we cannot answer the question, why? My heart and mind tell me, it is good, it has to be good, whomever or whatever created this universe, in my opinion God, left no room for deliberations!"
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