As parents, we raise our children to "spread their wings and fly," hoping that we have done the right things, the unknowing wounds inflicted while they were maturing will be overshadowed by the love and support you have and continue to give them. With many variables in this endless universe, one simply known as life, wreaks havoc on the mind and heart, threatening our souls to the very core. Learning long ago, planning down to the last detail, may sometimes come back to haunt you. We wish, we pray, we hope, longing for inner peace, for our children and ourselves. We support family and friends through hard times, we laugh, we cry...we talk.
As with all things, "practice is suppose to make perfect," yet we all know luck, has much to do with life. Our children were raised knowing it was okay to make mistakes, just please learn from them, no repeat performances accepted. As friends and patrons frequented our restaurant, it seemed as though the large "family" always had advice for each other, they were willing to jump in at the first signs of distress, not just for us, but for those that frequented our small town restaurant daily. As with all communities both large and small, gossip abounds. Most of the time gossip is what it is, petty, When it becomes hurtful, the outer limits have been reached. Unfortunately, those that continue, don't always realize the nature of their attack, causing undue anguish on those living the nightmare. Question: What is a "family?" Aren't they suppose to offer support, comfort and prayers?"
Negativity seems to be the normalcy of today's society, sad but true. We thrive on other people's heartache and misfortunes. We make mountains out of other's weaknesses and we judge. Being just a guilty as others, admitting there have been times, I should have ended overheard conversations, but did not. Saddened by this admission, searching my soul and asking for guidance, I will not repeat such painful performances. Instead, a show of support for both family and friends when it is most needed.
Our lifespan on this planet is relatively short, wouldn't it be better to race through life on a positive note? A very close friend battling cancer, serves as a reminder, just how lucky we are. It seems this past year we have not only participated in our own battles but have watched others. Those who have approached every obstacle with enthusiasm and a positive inner being, survive. Others chose, perhaps not so wisely. But then we are NOT them.
But pressure doesn't always come from illness. Everyday obstacles pressure us, whether it's the career or lack of, a fault in judgement resulting in the crumbling of what was suppose to be a solid foundation used to springboard one into a successful career, a relationship beginning or ending. Perhaps it is a young person wanting to possess the heart of another who may be pressured into a relationship much too soon. Pressures can hurt, but on a positive note they build character, and may determine just who is a friend or foe. As I search for answers in my own life, memories sometimes gush forward, blocking paths and thoughts. It is these moments, I walk with and talk to my inner person, remembering words of wisdom from those that are family and friends. Memere always said, "it's okay to talk to yourself, just don't answer!" Instead I listen, the answer is always there.
As with all things, "practice is suppose to make perfect," yet we all know luck, has much to do with life. Our children were raised knowing it was okay to make mistakes, just please learn from them, no repeat performances accepted. As friends and patrons frequented our restaurant, it seemed as though the large "family" always had advice for each other, they were willing to jump in at the first signs of distress, not just for us, but for those that frequented our small town restaurant daily. As with all communities both large and small, gossip abounds. Most of the time gossip is what it is, petty, When it becomes hurtful, the outer limits have been reached. Unfortunately, those that continue, don't always realize the nature of their attack, causing undue anguish on those living the nightmare. Question: What is a "family?" Aren't they suppose to offer support, comfort and prayers?"
Negativity seems to be the normalcy of today's society, sad but true. We thrive on other people's heartache and misfortunes. We make mountains out of other's weaknesses and we judge. Being just a guilty as others, admitting there have been times, I should have ended overheard conversations, but did not. Saddened by this admission, searching my soul and asking for guidance, I will not repeat such painful performances. Instead, a show of support for both family and friends when it is most needed.
Our lifespan on this planet is relatively short, wouldn't it be better to race through life on a positive note? A very close friend battling cancer, serves as a reminder, just how lucky we are. It seems this past year we have not only participated in our own battles but have watched others. Those who have approached every obstacle with enthusiasm and a positive inner being, survive. Others chose, perhaps not so wisely. But then we are NOT them.
But pressure doesn't always come from illness. Everyday obstacles pressure us, whether it's the career or lack of, a fault in judgement resulting in the crumbling of what was suppose to be a solid foundation used to springboard one into a successful career, a relationship beginning or ending. Perhaps it is a young person wanting to possess the heart of another who may be pressured into a relationship much too soon. Pressures can hurt, but on a positive note they build character, and may determine just who is a friend or foe. As I search for answers in my own life, memories sometimes gush forward, blocking paths and thoughts. It is these moments, I walk with and talk to my inner person, remembering words of wisdom from those that are family and friends. Memere always said, "it's okay to talk to yourself, just don't answer!" Instead I listen, the answer is always there.
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